Here’s the truth. Some of us are designed to be mothers and some of us have to work harder at it. This is ok. You do not need to feel bad that you don’t love mothering 100% of the time. I don’t think there is anyone who wants to work 100% of the time.
According to Human Design about 30% of the population are not energetically designed to work consistently-this work includes parenting. It is best for our long-term health and vitality to engage in work for short periods of time and then take time to recharge.
What happens when we don’t take this time for ourselves? We end up stressed out, cranky, snapping at our family, or getting sick.
Here are the 10 strategies to feel more at peace during motherhood:
1. Accept yourself for both your strengths and weaknesses. You are a good Mommy.
2. Stop comparing yourself to other mothers. Just do YOUR best.
3. Accept and love your children for who they are and don’t try to make them something they are not.
4. Put more energy into paying attention to the things that you like about being a mother.
5. Stop trying to avoid experiencing painful experiences and stop trying to shield your child from things that are painful or uncomfortable.
6. Praise yourself and your child for little accomplishments.
7. Breathe and tune in NOT out when you are getting bored.
8. Stopping worrying about what others think. Think about how you are responding to your child’s behavior and whether it comes from a need to not be judged by others or whether it’s what is really good for them.
9. Stay in the Present Moment.
10. Know that you are deserving of rest, love and fun. Make time in your schedule for these activities.
Which ones stood out for you? Pick 1 to focus on this week. Let’s us know how it goes.
Jennifer Bronsnick, MSW, LCSW is passionate about supporting moms to be resilient. As a mother of three daughters under 8 and a survivor of postpartum depression and anxiety Jennifer knows exactly how challenging motherhood can be. She also knows that there is hope for all of us and with accurate information, support and inspiration that mothers and families can thrive.
Jennifer’s years of clinical experience as a social worker and her own personal journey gives her the unique ability to guide other moms on their path to health and wellness. You can also learn more about Jennifer, the services she offers and purchase her books on maternal self-care at www.themindfulfamily.com/jennifer.