1) You had a messed-up childhood or a lot of past trauma
Fix that Shit Solution: There are many healing modalities that can heal or help you to move past trauma. EFT, EMDR, hypnosis or trauma sensitive yoga each have scientific evidence validating its efficacy in the treatment of trauma. If you got dealt crappy parents or had other traumatic experiences in your life-I am so sorry that you had to go through that AND there is hope. Decide right now that YOU will NOT let the past mess up your future. You can learn new coping tools to break free from the cycle of suffering. If you’ve experienced trauma and are still suffering please reach out ASAP. (There is a link for a FREE call at the end of this article)
2) You had a recent illness or are currently in physical discomfort
Fix that Shit Solution: Take a nap. Drink water. Go to a functional medicine doctor or nutritionist that can help you boost your immune system and figure out what is REALLY happening inside your cells. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY. Find out which supplements or vitamins are going to support your health and energy. Give yourself some compassion. Also delegate everything.
3) You are burned out
Fix that Shit Solution: See above tips for ‘recent illness’. Also check out your Human Design strategy for decision making and sleep. You might be burning out because you are exhausted from trying to be someone you’re not and Human Design can help you see how amazing and special you are.
4) You are anxious or depressed
Fix that Shit Solution: Been there. It feels like shit. You have all these things you want to do but scared of losing control or worrying the people you love. I know that it sucks AND there is hope. You can feel better with a holistic approach to your health. Look at what you are eating and your gut health. Look at what you are telling yourself. Look at how you are spending your time and who you are spending it with. Healing is an art and not a science. There are solutions out there. I know because I have recovered multiple times. Contact me or find a GOOD holistic therapist. YOU deserve to feel good!
5) You have no support
Fix that Shit Solution: Decide what you need. Make a list. Remind yourself it’s OK to receive help from others and this makes you strong. Tell your partner or a friend that you’re tired and see if they’ll take your kids. Get a sitter one night a week. You are going to have to get creative and assume that a solution is out there. No one is going to give you permission to make your needs a priority, so stop asking for it.
6) Your friends/partner/kids are needy and you are a giver
Fix that Shit Solution: Ask your needy friend to take care of your kids. If she says no 3 times in a row it’s time to get new friends. Stop saying yes when you really want to say no. Make sure the people you spend the most time with are supportive and make you feel good about yourself. Tell your partner what you need. Get your kids to do age appropriate things for themselves. Do not be a martyr, instead aim for relationships where there is a balance of giving and receiving.
7) You child is struggling with medical, emotional or learning issues
Fix that Shit Solution: First, I want you to know that I am so sorry that your child is struggling. There is nothing worse than not knowing how to help your child. Sometimes there is NO easy answer or it’s totally outside our control. This is often the case with medical, emotional or learning issues. Of course, there is always hope AND you can control how YOU are taking care of yourself. Learn coping tools, so you can model them for your child. Take that vacation. Stay in the Moment. Ask for support from professionals who know what they are doing. Also re-read the suggestions on burnout.
8) Your business isn’t successful or you don’t like your work
Fix that Shit Solution: Get your Human Design Chart and figure out whether 1) You are doing the wrong work or 2) You aren’t using your natural talents 3) Your marketing tactics are incorrect for your type. Then hire a coach (yes you have to trust that you deserve it) who is at least 2 steps ahead of you and can show you what is possible. Trust that if you have a passion inside that it’s there for a reason and YOU deserve to have success.
9) You’re drinking too much alcohol
Fix that shit solution: Why are you drinking? What are you trying to escape from? This past year I stopped drinking. When I was in college (and for years after) I used to drink until the room was spinning. I get it. Alcohol helps us to let down our guard and relieves anxiety (especially social anxiety). In excess it is TERRIBLE for your liver (where we process toxins and metabolize life) and your body. Stop getting drunk. If you can’t stop then my bet is that you need some help to quit. It will be worth it. Your body and family will thank you. Also review the solution for Burnout.
10) You have too much on your plate
Fix that shit solution: No you don’t. You are just doing things that aren’t in line with your souls purpose or Human Design Strategy. You can learn how to decide what things you should be doing and what things you can stop. Decide what your values are and prioritize those things. Once you are living based on your values then fit in the less important items on your list. You probably also have an open root, open will center or open sacral. Get your Human Design Chart to find out.
Is there something on this list that you relate to? What if you had all the tools you needed to cope with any problem that arrises in your life? Would you feel great about yourself?
You would have peace of mind. You would feel confident. You would feel empowered.
I wrote this because I want you to know that for every challenge you have in your life there is a solution, and it starts with having compassion for yourself, accepting where you are at right now and asking for help.
It is ok and totally normal not to have your shit together, especially when the unexpected happens in our life. The best way that we can ensure that when we lose our shit, we recover it quickly is to build resiliency.
If you try the “Fix that Shit Solution” and it’s not working for you or you’re ready to stop trying to figure it out on your own. Let’s chat.
I’ll get you your Human Design Chart and if I can’t help you, I will find someone who can.
Jennifer Bronsnick, MSW, LCSW is passionate about supporting moms to heal from burnout and families to be resilient. As a mother of three daughters under 9 and a survivor of postpartum depression and anxiety, Jennifer knows exactly how challenging motherhood can be. She also knows that there is hope for all of us and with accurate information, support and inspiration that mothers and families can thrive.
Jennifer’s years of clinical experience as a social worker and her own personal journey gives her the unique ability to guide individuals on their path to health and wellness.